How to Embrace Yourself No Matter Your Status

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These are the top 12 ways to embrace yourself no matter your status, which will help you love yourself better + develop and maintain a strong relationship with yourself.

It’s absurd that so many people cannot stand their own presence. They avoid it like the plague. This is usually due to having a hard time loving and embracing ourselves. So as a result, we jump into relationships. We escape any alone time at any chance we get. We invest all of our energy in maintaining and developing other relationships with people around us. And neglect ourselves in the process. Which is the surest, most direct way to weaken your self-relationship.

You can never be truly happy if you only rely and depend on others to do it for you. If you constantly escape and avoid spending time alone. To be happy with who you are and what you have… You need to work on who you are, and what you have. On the status, you ARE right now. (As a side note; if you’re in a relationship, you still need to work on YOURSELF as well). It’s important to love others, but you need to love yourself first and foremost. When you love and embrace yourself properly, you become stronger and more independent. You also attract better love into your life. A strong relationship with yourself will help you strengthen other relationships.

What Does it Mean to Embrace Yourself?

Embracing is the combination of acceptance, tolerance and grace. Embracing yourself is about giving and showing this combination to YOU.

You can be bitter ‘till tomorrow about what you lack or who you can’t ever be. But that won’t change a thing, will it? In fact, it will only make you feel worse about yourself. It’s about accepting who you are; your strengths and weaknesses, your attributes and “flaws”. Being willing to tolerate your feelings, habits, or beliefs without constant judgment. And showing yourself grace when you struggle or not feeling the greatest. It’s about giving yourself support and being your own cheerleader. Instead of constantly bringing yourself down.

Shift & Change Your Mindset

One of the biggest influencers on the way you live your life and the way you see yourself – is your mindset. If you always focus on everything that can and does go wrong… Then you’re more likely to have more things go wrong. It’s so easy to find bad things; you will always find them if you look for them. But there are just as many good, positive things. And you’ll find even more if that’s what you seek. Yeah, the negative is also part of life, and you need to embrace that as well because that is what will help you recognise and appreciate the good and the positive. You need to make a conscious decision to focus mainly on everything right in yourself, everything good, and work hard to make it happen. When you do that, you will be so much happier, and when you’re happier, and your mindset is positive, you will embrace yourself much better.

COURT YOURSELF – pursue & get to know YOU better

Embracing yourself, no matter your status, starts with treating yourself as someone worth pursuing. Imagine the care, attention, and curiosity you’d show to someone you’re truly interested in. Then direct that energy inward. Courting yourself means taking the time to understand who you are, what you love, and what makes you feel most alive. It’s about being intentional in nurturing a relationship with yourself, learning to appreciate your own company, and showing up for yourself in ways that feel authentic and fulfilling.

1. Date Yourself

Spend quality time with yourself and don’t just waste it away on meaningless activities, or doing nothing. Learn how to be comfortable in your own company instead of seeing it as a punishment. If you want to enjoy and embrace your alone time and yourself… You actually need to spend time by yourself. High-quality time – without screens or technology, at least not as the main distraction. Take yourself on proper dates, just like any other relationship you have in your life. Make sure they are activities you both enjoy and are significant for you. Things that will bring you closer to yourself and not make you uncomfortable. To embrace yourself, you need to dedicate and designate time, every week, just for you. Whether it be a pampering home spa date, a coffee date at your favourite cafe or a stroll in the park.

2. Treat Yourself

Whether it’s by buying yourself nice treats, small gifts, or acts of service and kindness. It’s not just about the treats, but also about the treatment towards yourself. If you’ve overcome a challenge or completed an important task – find ways to reward yourself. Congratulate and cheer yourself on, when you do something great or achieve something new. When you’re celebrating a milestone or important event, buy yourself a nice gift. Surprise and get yourself small treats just because you feel like it. Find different ways of treating yourself, making you feel special and growing closer to yourself. Just like you would with your loved ones. Doing so, helps you bond with yourself, shows you care, and makes it easier for you to embrace yourself by being someone worthy of this treatment. It also helps you enhance your worth, and not accept anyone who treats you any less.

3. Explore Your Interests

Whether or not you have active hobbies, and especially if you don’t know what you like or how to spend your alone time… Part of the process of embracing yourself is getting to know who you are and what you like. Often we think we know, but when we dig deeper, we can discover a whole new world. When you create for yourself a whole world of content, it’s much easier to be content with who you are and what you have. If your life is full and interesting, it will be much more enjoyable and alluring. To start this process, create a list of things that interest you, do some research and then trial and error. This is not only a great way to discover new things, but also new people if you join classes, workshops, groups, etc.

4. SHOW UP for Yourself

Think of one person in your life who can lean on you no matter what, and perhaps even you on them. Someone you show up for in the good and the bad. You’re an immovable fixture in their life. They can rely on you, and you on them. That’s exactly what I want you to be for yourself. Be there when you need it, take time to just do what YOU need, and show yourself how much you love and care. When you’re strong for yourself, you can also be stronger for others. And you not only feel like a dependable person, you also feel more secure in yourself and your life. When you show up for yourself, and when you’re a person that shows up when needed… You feel proud and better about yourself, thus, creating a feeling of embracing yourself and who you are.

CARE FOR YOUR NECESSITIES – find & give yourself what you need

Caring for yourself starts with tuning in to what truly nourishes your mind, body, and soul. It’s not just about meeting basic needs—it’s about identifying what helps you feel balanced, energised, and fulfilled. To care for your necessities and give yourself what you need, you must first recognise the areas in your life that require attention, whether it’s creating a calm environment, prioritising self-care rituals, or tending to your mental and physical health. By consistently meeting these needs, you build a solid foundation for a deeper and more loving relationship with yourself.

5. Cleanse your life

Remove toxic people, things and habits from your life that make you feel bad, sad and worthless. When your life is filled with people who only bring you down and make you feel less than you are… Then you will have a harder time embracing yourself. If there’s someone who you’re constantly chasing, but they don’t put in the same effort… Then you need to get rid of them. The same goes for any material objects or things that may make you feel bad about yourself. If there are habits you acquired over the years that you don’t like, and make it hard for you to embrace yourself… Then you need to work on getting rid of them. Like smoking, over-drinking, binge-eating/watching, etc. Draining your life from all of these toxins, will improve it greatly and help you take a huge step towards embracing yourself.

6. Self care & pampering

Self-care is one of my favourite forms of expressing and showing myself some self-love. Firstly, and most basic – make sure to have a proper hygiene and skincare routine. It’s fundamental to have a proper daily routine, that will not only keep you clean and fresh but also make you feel better about yourself. If you neglect yourself, you will feel disgusting and will have a hard time embracing yourself. Secondly, you should also have some designated pampering time. Whether it be a home spa date, or just a face mask, bath bomb/salts, etc. You should incorporate these in your weekly schedule, as they will also help you feel good about yourself, and thus… Help you embrace yourself.

7. Taking care of your health

Your health is the foundation of your well-being, affecting how you care for yourself and others. Nurturing both your physical and mental health helps you build the strength and balance to thrive in every aspect of life.

Physical health

This is a different form of self-care, which is a little less pleasant at times. Because embracing yourself is also about taking care of your health – both mentally and physically. Self-care isn’t just about the nice, fun stuff. Sometimes it’s also hard and unpleasant. This means, eating healthy and working out – even when it’s difficult. Of course, you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself – because that will just make you more miserable.

It’s okay to have cheat days and skip a workout here and there. But it’s so important to work on your self-discipline and create a healthy lifestyle regime. Staying healthy makes you feel clean from the inside out, and when you feel that – you feel better about yourself. And again, that will help you embrace yourself better. It will also improve your mental health, and make you happier in general, which is a huge bonus.

Mental health

When you feel unstable, it will be very difficult for you to embrace yourself. Thus, just as it is important to take care of your body, it’s also important to take care of your mind and soul. For some this may mean going to see a therapist, which is great. For others, it can be a hike through nature or any form of sport. It can also be drawing, writing, playing an instrument, or any other form of art. I also strongly believe that taking some breaks throughout the days, weeks and months from screens, tech and especially social media… Does wonders for mental health. Disconnecting from all that is definitely the best way to reconnect with yourself.

8. Provide your essentials

Providing your essentials means making sure you have what you need to thrive in all areas of your life—physically, emotionally, and mentally. This could be as simple as ensuring you get enough rest, nourishing your body with healthy food, or surrounding yourself with positive influences. It also means giving yourself the space to process emotions and prioritising activities that bring you joy and fulfilment. When you regularly provide these essentials, you show yourself the love and care that strengthens your self-relationship, empowering you to face life’s challenges with confidence and resilience.

FILL YOUR LIFE – add substance & value to your daily routines

To truly embrace yourself no matter your status, it’s essential to fill your life with meaningful activities that add substance and value. This means intentionally creating a lifestyle that nourishes you. Whether it’s pursuing personal passions, focusing on your health, or exploring new hobbies. Every small addition enriches your day and strengthens your relationship with yourself. The more you invest in yourself through purpose-driven routines, the more you become aligned with your true self. Setting the stage for lasting self-love and fulfilment.

9. Surround yourself with good people

The people you keep close to you, are a direct reflection of what your life looks like. From the way you act to how you lead your life. If you’re constantly hanging out with people who drag you down and make you do bad things, you will never be able to get up from there. Nor will you be able to embrace who you are like that. If you’re always hanging out with people with bad, negative vibes, they will rub off on you and make you do and feel the same. You need and want to start hanging out and surrounding yourself with people who lift you. People who not only behave well and make you feel good about yourself, but also inspire you to do and be better. And people who lead a strong, positive life themselves, will help you do the same.

10. Find the things you love & enjoy

This is all about taking advantage of your single periods and time alone. But unfortunately, too many people are too scared of being single/alone that they just jump straight from one relationship to another. Besides the fact that you need to take the time to regain energy and let your heart heal and rest… You also need to take the time to get reacquainted with yourself. Discover what you love and enjoy. What makes you happy? Get to know yourself again and learn who you are alone. When you do that, you become stronger and more independent. Then you rely and depend less on others to make you happy or live your life. You’re less likely to lose yourself in a relationship. You need to learn how to be single and happy, so you can truly be happy in other relationships.

11. Maintain a proper, productive schedule

There’s nothing that can make you self-deprecating, quite like feeling unproductive can. It’s definitely more than okay to have slow days where you don’t get much done. And you should never be too hard on yourself for that. But you also need to be aware of that fine line between being lazy and needing a break. Make sure to build a proper schedule for yourself, where you fill in your work, friends and family, hobbies, self-dates and everything else I’ve mentioned throughout this post. When you feel productive, like you’re getting things done and doing well, you will feel so much better about yourself, thus you embrace yourself more. So whether it be in a physical planner or on Google Calendar… Make sure to fill up your days with a good variety of workloads, fun activities, health care and pampering.

12. Paying it forward

I think the times that I felt the best about myself, was when I was helping others be their best self. There is nothing quite like that feeling of making an impact; a difference in someone’s life. Like your presence in their life, the action you took and the words you said… Made their life that much better. At the end of the day, what is all the self-love in the world worth, if you just keep it between your own four walls?

You need to spread it out as much as you can. You create a cycle, by helping others, you feel good about yourself, which makes it easier and better to keep helping others and making a change in the world. When you do that, nothing else will make you feel quite as fulfilled as when you’re helping others. And believe me, that is the best way to embrace yourself.

The process and journey to embracing yourself, is never easy, just like everything else in life.

It takes effort and hard work. You need to make it a prominent goal in your life and strive towards it every single day. Loving yourself, learning how to enjoy your own company and how to be single and happy, will rarely (if ever) happen easily and quickly. It’s a long and windy road, with many struggles, hurdles, ups and downs. There will be hard days when you need to climb and use every ounce of your strength. There will also be better days when you’re just striding along the plain.

It is crucial to remember that it’s okay to struggle, it’s okay to break down and be on the verge of giving up. As long as you keep reminding yourself of your end goal and why you’re fighting. Of how much it’s worth it all. Because it truly is worth it. When you learn how to embrace yourself with all your scars, quirks, weirdnesses, wounds, imperfections and flaws… You will be so much happier because your main source will be you, and no one else.