I’m in My 30s and Still Single—Is Something Wrong With Me?

“I’m in My 30s and Still Single—Is Something Wrong With Me?” How to Shift Your Mindset, Find Purpose, and Embrace Being Single in Your 30s

If you’re reading this, chances are you’ve asked yourself this question, too. Perhaps multiple times. You’re probably consumed by these thoughts, even believing them and feeling behind in life. I know this loop well; I was stuck in it for a long time. Always asking myself: “Why am I still single at 30?” Instead of asking myself what I should’ve been asking: “How do I embrace being single in my 30s?”

There’s this silent shame, anxiety, and comparison that comes with being single in your 30s. Especially when everyone around you is getting married and having kids. And you just seem to be getting further and further away from it. Even the possibility of it happening seems far-fetched. For the longest time, I wallowed over it and pitied myself.

You’re not alone—and this post (and 30-Day Challenge) is here to shift their perspective. Yes, it’s hard, but this time in your life is an OPPORTUNITY, not a punishment. 

Why This Question Hurts So Much

• Paving your own way: There’s this roadmap that’s become “the norm”, and with it comes societal pressure to “hit milestones” by a certain age (marriage, kids, house). So if you don’t follow it or miss a stop, you’re made to feel like a failure. It may not always be said out loud (you know, the ‘I feel sorry for you’ look). But the insinuation is deafening. So how can you not believe that ‘There’s something wrong with me.’ Right?
  
• Life isn’t a rom-com: From a young age, having a boyfriend/girlfriend makes you cool. You’re spoon-fed fairytales on every possible medium and in every format. Nothing is more celebrated than engagement, weddings and having kids. So, how could you not see your relationship status as a reflection of your worth?
  
• Everyone’s life is Instagram-worthy: Or so it seems on social media. Your siblings, your friends – they’re all “settling down”, and you’re always asked “what about you?” And you’ve probably asked this of yourself way too many times. This only causes you to be resentful towards everyone around you and push them away.

This is exactly the kind of mindset spiral the 30-Day Challenge helps you break out of.

There’s Nothing Wrong With You

But There Might Be Something Wrong With the Narrative

• Reframe & shift your mindset: Similarly to asking “why am I still single?”, it’s all in how you frame it. You get to choose how you tell your own story. So instead of feeling sorry for yourself (i.e. “Ugh, why am I still single at 30?” Or “Is something wrong with me for being single?”). Start finding ways to learn how to embrace being single in your 30s and how to enjoy being single.
  

• Flip the script: Challenge the belief that being single = failure. Or that it makes you lesser than. Find how it makes you better, how you can use this freedom you have to create success in your life. For me, it was adding purpose to this period, not just letting it be a waiting room for “the one”. I worked on myself: patience, stress, habits, etc. While also improving my life: growing my passions, friendships, family, hobbies, etc.
  
• STOP seeing it as a punishment: and START seeing it as a powerful time for growth. It took me a while, but eventually I understood that not everyone gets this GIFT of being single in their 30s. You just have to CHOOSE to focus on the perks and how lucky you are to have them. Most people just lose themselves at a young age, but NOT YOU!

What if This Time is Exactly What You Need?

How to enjoy being single and start embracing singlehood

• A period in your life: First of all, it’s important to remember that no matter how long it will be, it’s still a season of life. It’s not a lifetime of being alone and learning to embrace single life, doesn’t mean you’re embracing singleness forever.  You can make this period in your life amazing. Singlehood, especially being single in your 30s, can be a gift if used intentionally. Use this time to empower yourself, to learn how to trust yourself and THRIVE.
  

• Things people can only do while single: My whole blog came to life thanks to my singlehood journey. And thanks to it, I get to pay it forward to you. This is my passion, and it gives me a lot of drive and meaning. So find your passion, utilise this time to go all in on what you want and believe in.
  
• This work also prepares you for future relationships: I didn’t realise it at the time, but working on myself so much – becoming independent and confident, thick-skinned and giving less f*cks… Helps me in almost every aspect of my life with Ze’ev now. He also did a lot of work on himself, and now we have the healthiest relationship either of us has ever had. And I don’t believe we would’ve been this happy if we hadn’t learned how to enjoy being single or how to embrace being single in our 30s.

That’s what my 30-Day Challenge is all about—guiding you step by step to shift from self-doubt to self-empowerment in your single life.

3 Powerful Questions to Ask Yourself Instead

To help you learn how to thrive single, a mindset shift, and be single and empowered

1. What do I want to create in my life right now?
   Create your own “baby”. Whether it’s fulfilling your own dream, bringing your passions to life, or honing in on a talent you have and want to make something of. This will not only give you something “to live for” and improve your life, it will also make you a more intriguing and attractive person.
   
2. How can I make the most of my time alone while it lasts?
   Like it or not, this is your status right now. Unless you wanna settle (which, believe me, you don’t)… The only thing you can do about it (to improve it) is to embrace it. Add substance to your life, create better connections, be there for others, and find your hobbies. Whatever it is that gives you purpose. That gives your status purpose.
   
3. Who do I want to become before I meet someone?
   Instead of “What’s wrong with me?” try: “What can I learn about myself right now? And how can I do better?” – This is the best time to create the habits you want, and get rid of those you don’t. Learn how to support yourself better, focus on how to thrive single and what it can teach you. This doesn’t only make you stronger alone, it will help you be stronger in a relationship – and not lose yourself in it.

Ready to Stop Feeling Broken and Start Feeling Empowered?

You are not behind. You’re not broken. You’re building.

If you’re ready to stop questioning your worth and start showing up for yourself, the 30-Day Challenge for Embracing Singlehood is your next step.

This digital challenge gives you a clear, compassionate roadmap to stop spiralling in self-doubt—and start building a single life that feels joyful, grounded, and full.

With 5 weekly themes and 35 days of empowering prompts, tools, and reflection exercises, you’ll reconnect with yourself, rediscover your strength, and create purpose—right where you are.

What’s Inside:

✧ 30-Day Challenge + 5 Bonus Days
✧ 12-page digital guide with weekly themes + daily prompts
✧ Printable 35-Day Challenge Tracker
✧ How-to guide + mindset tips for success

This isn’t about settling for being single forever—it’s about owning your right now.
Because you deserve to feel whole and worthy in every chapter of your life.

👉 Start your challenge today—and take the first step toward your most confident, grounded self.

Stay safe, stay healthy and stay strong!
Michal B.L.

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