12 simple and easy activities to do alone, which will help you enjoy your own company, build a stronger self-connection and relationship, and grow closer to yourself.
It’s always been absurd to me that so many people struggle to be in their own presence, let alone enjoy it. Whatever you do, wherever you go and wherever life may take you, there is only one constant. Only one thing you can ever know without a shadow of a doubt. That no matter what, you are the only person that will always be there for you. We are the only people who will remain in our own lives, no matter who else may come and go. Therefore, the only way we could ever really be truly happy, is if we actually enjoy the company of the one person we can never leave. And how could we ever possibly learn to embrace ourselves if we don’t actually enjoy our alone time?
I’ve compiled a list of activities you can do with yourself, all of which will help you spend quality alone time. Quality time with yourself will upgrade your alone time and help you learn how to enjoy it, as well as build a stronger, deeper connection with yourself. Most of the activities on this list can even be done from the comfort of your own home, or without going too far out. They are also cheap, simple and easy to execute as well as staying consistent. Of course, there’s no need to do all of them, try to choose the ones best suited for you and focus on them. If you’re not sure, you can play around with them, do some trial and error until you find the best ones for you.
I know that not everyone likes puzzles, but even if you don’t, it’s still worth giving it a try. Find one of a beautiful picture you like, one that you may even be able to frame after. It will certainly make it more enjoyable. Puzzles will not only force you to slow down your pace and practice patience… But also how to be with yourself in the quietness and stillness. It’s a great way to calm yourself if you’re feeling anxious and stressed, or just need a moment to relax yourself and your nerves. It will also train your brain a bit in thinking outside of the box, as well as training your motor skills and memory. And yes, it can also simply be just fun. Also, if you can feel comfortable with yourself building a puzzle, you can feel comfortable with yourself in many other low-key situations as well.
2. Drawing, painting or sculpting
Before you ask, no, you don’t have to be any good at it. In fact, if you’re not good at it, you’re actually more likely to enjoy it. Because you won’t care as much how well it did or didn’t come out. If it’s something you usually excel at, you’ll feel that pressure to always be good at it. Even when you’re just doing it for fun. This way, you can just let go, and enjoy the process, make as big a mess as you want. Laugh in joy, and without a care in the world when it comes out ugly. Creating something new, no matter how good or bad it comes out, will always be thrilling and fulfilling.
3. Arts & crafts
This has always been one of my favourite things to do, as it is so fun and therapeutic. You can head to the local art supply store, or even a stock store where you can buy things for cheap… And just get some fun things you can use to create whatever it is you want to do. It can also be from an arts and crafts subscription box if you’d like, or if you’re struggling to find some ideas. I once decorated a simple Ikea lamp, with recycled Nespresso capsules. Again, it doesn’t have to come out great, you just have to enjoy the process.
4. DIY projects
In the same line of thought, just on a larger scale. This can be a fun project you’ve wanted to do for a while, or something you want to change or fix in your house. Whether it be making a mural on one of your walls, building a compost, hanging plants, revamping old furniture, building a shelf, and so one, and so forth. You can use a youtube video to guide you through it or to get some inspiration. This is a great way to also gain some skills, like being more handy, and learn how to do things for yourself.
You already know that I’m always for writing, whether it be journaling or just writing for fun. Writing is a fantastic all-around tool to help you in many different aspects of your life, as well as just using it to enjoy your alone time. It can help you track your goals and progress in your journey. And it can also help you release nagging thoughts, anxiety or nerves (or all of the above). You can also use writing to just escape into a whole other world, and write some fun, exciting and creative new stories. Which will also help you improve your creativity and expand your imagination, and let it go wild.
Cooking is a bit trickier, because it’s the one thing on the list that if you don’t do well, you won’t fully enjoy it because it won’t come out good. You may enjoy the process, but if the end result isn’t edible, you’ll be disappointed and hungry. But just because you may not be good at it now, doesn’t mean you can’t. This is a great opportunity to start being good at it. Start with small, simple dishes and slowly build your way up. You can very easily find recipes online, either written ones or videos that will also instruct you step by step. It’s also important not to take it too seriously and not to get discouraged. You can even turn this into a fun cooking and dinner self-date.
If you work from home, or even an office, and you’re stuck inside all day, probably even sitting for most of it… A walk is a great way to get your body moving, as well as some much needed fresh air and sunshine. When I spend too much time inside I feel suffocated and jittery. Walking is also great for your mental and physical health, as well as your overall mood. For me it especially helped me battle my brain fog. Even just 10-15 minutes is better than nothing, but if you can, 30 minutes a day is ideal. Once it becomes a habit, you’ll see you won’t be able to give it up. With all of its all-around benefits, daily walks are definitely one of the most productive activities you can do with yourself.
In this day and age, with all the technology, screens and social media, it’s really no wonder that people can’t just sit and read a book. But that’s also precisely why we need to start reading more. Get our eyes off the screen and give them, along with our souls and minds a much needed cleanse and break from socials… And focus instead on something that will benefit us in many ways. Reading not only expands and improves your vocabulary and knowledge, it also helps you practice being patient, and slowing your pace a bit. It’s also a great way to get used to being alone with yourself, especially in silence.
At first I wasn’t even willing to try mediation, because I find it difficult to stay still for so long. I’m an active person and I prefer moving my body. I was very anti and struck out the option of even trying it right away. But as time passed I decided to give it a try, especially when I had anxiety and difficulties falling asleep. Meditation certainly helped me with both, but it’s also another great way to practice stillness with yourself. Being alone quietly and patiently.
Gardening is especially great if you enjoy being active, moving and working with your hands. And even more so if you enjoy creating and growing things you can use later. There’s something so satisfying about planting seeds or even sprouting them yourself, then growing vegetables or flowers from them. There are so many videos online showing you how you can sprout your own seeds, from a vegetable seed you had at home. It also gives you a sense of accomplishment that will surely make you more proud of yourself. As an added bonus, it also gets you outside of the house as well.
11. Drive around (or jump on a bus)
If you’re feeling antsy and want to get out of the horse, but don’t want to walk, you can get in your car and drive around. Either in your neighbourhoods, city or even to any nearby city as well. You don’t have to have any specific destination in mind, all you have to do is just drive. Personally I would prefer a calmer road, to not irk myself even more with traffic and annoying drivers. Put on some nice music and sing along. If you don’t have a license or car, you can even just jump on a bus or train and take it for as long, and as far as you’d like.
12. Play an instrument
This is fantastic if you already play an instrument, but you can also use some of your time to learn how to play. Or how to play a new song, or new instrument. Not only is it fun, exciting and educational, it’s also a great way to feel relaxed and calm in your own presence. Because music, and playing, are very therapeutic and help you battle anxiety, stress and nerves. You can also challenge yourself by trying different, new songs if you’d like. If you can’t afford a teacher, you can also learn from youtube, you don’t have to be great at it, just enjoy it.
In conclusion – find the right activities for you, and balance between them
Enjoying our alone time is also one of the most important steps and components of learning how to embrace our singleness. Because a huge, and inseparable part of single life is spending a lot of alone time. And because the one main relationship in our singlehood is our own self-relationship, which cannot be strong if we dread our own presence and company. As you can see from the list above, you don’t have to go far, or even above and beyond any of your means. You don’t have to over complicate it, and there’s no need to challenge yourself too much every time. In fact, I believe that it’s the small things, the simple things that matter most. It’s the subtle things that permeate the furthest and deepest.
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