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How to Shift Your Mindset

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These are the reasons why, and the top ways to shift your mindset. Which will help you embrace yourself and your singleness, and take control of your own life.

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Having the right mindset is a crucial part of being your best self, and upgrading your life. If you want to be the best you can and do the best, make the most of your life… You need to learn how to stop focusing on all the wrong things, stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. Stop seeing where you’re lacking and what you don’t have… And start focusing on your attributes, on what is going for you, and all the opportunities you have. Start choosing to think as positively as you can, see the good in every situation. Start seeing things differently.

Instead of mistakes, see lessons. Instead of failure, see learning opportunities to do and be better. Keep pushing through, instead of giving up,. Be resilient, persevere and stay consistent. Without the right mindset, without focusing on the right things, it will be much harder to achieve any of that. 

Why do you need to shift your mindset?
  • To  reduce stress – when your mind works overtime, or when it’s struggling to focus or relax… It can get quite stressful. And we all know stress is unhealthy, exhausting and has a great impact on your life and mood. When you learn how to shift your mindset, take control over it and choose it’s focus… You will feel less stressed.
  • To connect with yourself – learning how to shift your mindset, requires getting to know yourself better, and focusing on your own core. Which means you will grow closer to yourself. When you know yourself better, you care more. You’re more in-sync with your mind, body and soul. 
  • To disconnect from a bad situation – when you have the right mindset and learn how to take charge of it and your life… You’re at a better vantage point to disconnect yourself from harming and hateful situations. Learning how to shift your mindset to focus on better things, will make it so much easier to leave the bad ones behind. 
  • To remove toxicity – you cannot change your mindset, if you’re surrounded by toxicity… Situations, people, habits and anything else that has a bad influence and impacts the way you feel and think, and even worse – the way you act. Anything toxic has to go, so you can start lifting yourself up. Without them holding you back.
  • To change the direction of your life – getting up, moving forward requires you to put in effort. And if your mind is thinking you can’t, or focusing on all that can go wrong, it will go wrong and you will remain stuck. Likely revolving around yourself. There will always be something to hold you back. You need to change your mindset, to choose to focus on how to move ahead.
  • To embrace yourself & your singleness – if you want to start improving your life, and learning how to embrace it and your singleness, you need to learn how to shift your mindset and focus on the things that will move you forward. Embracing will be near impossible if you keep focusing on what you hate in yourself and your life. If you only see your flaws and faults. 
  • To enhance your capabilities – when you start focusing on all of your best sides, you are more likely to be the best, and continue bettering yourself. Having the right mindset will help you focus on building yourself up. On making the most of what you’ve got. On learning and developing yourself and your capabilities. It will help you believe in yourself, and when you do that, there’s little that can stop you.
1. Meditation and mindfulness

We live in a very advanced century, with so much going on, all the time. There are more options, more than ever. Everything within reach, at the tap of our fingers on our phones. The attention span has become so short, and there’s just too much to focus on. So is it any wonder that we feel stuck? There’s just so much, it’s too much, and we end up choosing nothing. If you want things to change, if you need to make sense of your mind and what you want… It’s important to take time to just be. Take a moment to just connect with yourself and your surroundings. Breathe. Clear your mind.

  • Go outside – take a walk, hike or just sit at your favorite spot. Preferably somewhere quiet, out in nature. Where you can soak in the fresh air and nature. Where you can just clear your mind. Undisrupted and tranquil. 
  • Guided meditation – when you struggle to let go and stop overthinking, when you have no idea where to even begin to quiet your mind… This is a great way to get “outside help”, while still doing it yourself. 
  • Music – it doesn’t have to be the typical meditation music, it can be any type that helps you relax. Just take a moment to calm and clear your mind. Switch off for a bit and focus on the music. 
  • Subliminal mind – this may sound bombastic at first, perhaps even scary… But in order to make real change, you actually need to go in deep. Some habits and patterns are so deep-rooted that it may not go anywhere no matter how hard we try, if we don’t take a deeper dive into our subconscious. To the route of the problem. Two of my favourite ways to do this, is with – Inner Talks and Real Subliminal – both of which offer a few options that can help you reach your inner self, and start making the change you need to better yourself and your life. 

With Real Subliminal you can get the album or playlist best suited for you, and download it to their mobile app. Which makes it super convenient! I got an album with ten minute tracks, so it doesn’t even take up that much time. It’s always a great break from the day’s noise and chaos, and just connect a moment with yourself. I personally love their Deep Calm tracks, they’re wonderful for when I feel anxious. Or when I’m overthinking. 

2. Take classes, courses and keep learning

Upgrading yourself and your life requires learning. Stop being a passive bystander in your own life, and start being an active participant. Start taking charge, stop letting life just pass you by. One of the best ways to do this is to be curious, don’t brush things off, instead, go in deep, and just learn wherever and whenever you can. This will not only make you a wiser person and build your skills… But it will also train your mind to focus on growth, and finding the lessons in life. Try to find the ways, no matter how small, to keep learning, developing and growing.

  • Look things up – this may sound silly and insignificant, but you’d be surprised by the impact it can make. Make a habit of looking things up and finding answers to any questions that may arise throughout your day. Instead of overlooking something, look deeper into it. If there’s a word you don’t know, an event in history you can’t remember, or anything else… Look it up and learn. Besides enhancing your general knowledge… This will also help you be better at controlling what your mind soaks in.
  • Take classes, courses and go to conventions – this can be either online or in person, whichever is best for you. You can also listen to podcasts or watch YouTube Videos. Classes are great to enhance your profession, learn new skills and get help you develop as a person. They make you wiser and train your mind to strive for better. 
  • Master Class – this is one of my favourite platforms for learning new things. Whether it pertains to my profession, hobbies or just something random I want to learn. They offer so many different categories, so no matter what your interests are, you’re sure to find something for you. Even taking a random class for the fun here and there, can be a great way to break your routine. Change things up. Get your mind working. Especially if your mind is always so focused on one specific domain. It’s a form of stretching for your mind, just like any other muscle in your body.
3. Journaling

As a writer, one of my favourite things to do is writing. I also believe in its power, just like any other art form… It’s therapeutic, it’s a wonderful tool to help you let out your thoughts and feelings. Express what you can’t out loud. Or just write what you’re going through, document your progress. So you can look back and learn from it, so you can manage it better and be in control of your journey. Below are some of the journals you can create, all of which you can use to “monitor” your progress. Read back on it to see what changed and what still needs to change. Or to remind yourself how far you’ve come.

Write down…

  • Your feelings or what you’re going through.
  • Good things that happened every day.
  • A story, allow your mind to wander and go wild.
  • About your progress.
  • Your goals, tasks and dreams.
Choose the right journal for you!

One of my favourite things to buy are notebooks and pens. I love getting more, even if I don’t need them. You can never have enough notebooks, it’s a great motivator to write. Because you already have them, why waste them, right? Personally I feel like getting the right notebook definitely prompts me to write more. There are so many great journals and notebooks out there, but one of my favourites (if not the favourite) is Best Self Journals

They have a variety of journals, notebooks and planners, but without a doubt, the best one is their Self Journal. They are not just like any journal, and they are certainly not just a notebook to write in. The notebooks provide you with all the prompts and motivators to help you set, plan and track progress towards your better self. 

So if you want to change your mindset and achieve your biggest dreams and goals… Do yourself a favour, and pick yourself up a Self Journal.

If you’d like, you can also check out these AWESOME journals my Mum designed!

4. Motivators & prompters

When I was at the starting point of my journey of embracing myself & my singleness… I felt lost, so lost that I just stayed stuck, revolving around myself. One of the things that helped me most, were “prompts” that gave me pushes in the right direction. That helped me face the questions I needed to answer, in order to start moving forward. They served as motivators for me to keep going, a great way to monitor my progress… But most of all, they got me out of my rut. They helped me stop feeling lost, and find my way. They made me ask myself the hard questions I was afraid of, but needed to ask. Or even as simple as which questions I needed to ask.

  • Mind Cards – I got these in one of my Therabox’s, and they were amazing. The cards provided me with tools and helped me discover my tools, which helped me become more mindful. They are a wonderful way to be more grateful and kind, and if you struggle with journaling, the cards provide great prompts. Not only will they help you shift your mindset, they will also help you create better rituals and habits for your life.
  • 30 Days of Intentions – This is another card set, which I got in my very first Therabox. I even did a 30 day challenge with them on my IG stories. These cards will help you pause, and ask you the hard questions that you need to face, to create change. It will help you raise your awareness and live your life with more intention.
  • Discovery Decks – this is another great option if you’re struggling to find the right questions or direction. There are a few different decks to choose from, each with a different purpose, depending on the aspect you need to work on. My all time favourite is the Core Values Deck. This deck will help you find and define your values, which is a crucial step in shifting your mindset. If you want to change the way you think, you need to work on your values. Your priorities, and the principle you create for your life and live by. Other great decks – Impact Deck and Edison Deck (and more).
5. Try new things

It’s very hard to change if you keep doing the same things again and again. You won’t get different results, and you won’t get to new places if you keep going down the same paths. If you want to change your mindset, to change where you are in life… Change things up. Go on adventures. Try and learn new things. Get out of your comfort zone and just start doing different things. Do some trial and error, see what you like and what’s good for you. Don’t be afraid to test things out. 

  • Try new hobbies – hobbies are an all-around  aspect of life… And I believe that every person, no matter their relationship status should have at least one, if not more. Besides adding substance and value to your life, they help you develop and grow… Yourself and your skills. Hobbies can help shape you and your mindset into something bigger and better. I think you should have at least one main hobby, which is something you love and are good at. And at least one small one just for fun, to help you break routine and do something different.
  • Start saying yes – instead of always hesitating and refusing offers, start saying yes. Within reason and boundaries, start taking chances and just going for it. There will always be good excuses. It’s very easy to find them, especially when you keep searching for them. Focus that energy on being spontaneous when you can and saying yes when opportunities arise. 
  • Go out to new places – one of the things that will fry your brain most, is being monotonous. Doing the same things, going to the same places, it will make your mind work on an automaton. Your brain gets so used to it, it stops thinking properly. Even just changing up the route to work, or the walks you take can make the difference. 
  • Going on adventures – if you’re always bored and not doing anything interesting, things that will get you excited… You’re sure to burn out very quickly. Life has so much to offer, it would be such a shame not to take advantage of it. Not to mention, that it will get your mind working and out of its rut.

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Michal B.L.

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Hey there! My name is Michal, I was born and raised in Israel, currently I live in a small city near Jerusalem. I'm a certified life coach, and in my Single Life Blog, I write about single life in all its glory and share Single Life Lessons to help you embrace yourself and your singlehood. I offer tips and advice for a better, happy single life, how to be independent, feel comfortable in your own skin and company, and how to not chase toxic people - all of which are based on my own 7-year single life experience.

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