Top 10 methods and ways to enhance your single life, and create the best personal development plan to level up and upgrade yourself.
You are the one constant person in your life, which means, you are the one in charge of your own life. You should be taking control of your own journey, development and happiness, by constantly growing and working on yourself. Especially when you’re single, and don’t have a partner to help you through your path. Either way, no matter your relationship status, you need to build yourself up and not rely and depend on others to do it for you.
If you find yourself in a single period, don’t waste it all away on chasing people and dates, or trying to avoid being alone. Use it to your benefit and take advantage of this time to upgrade yourself and your life. This is the best time to embark on your personal development journey… And your personal development journey is an inseparable part of your journey to embracing yourself and your singleness.
1. Find your hobbies
Yep, this again. What can I say, I’m a HUGE believer in acquiring and maintaining hobbies. It’s a great thing to have in your life, all around. First and foremost, it’s a great way to spend quality time with yourself. Which will help you enjoy your own company. It’s also a great way to learn new skills and feel productive. In order to be your best self, and continue to grow, you need to fill your life with things that bring you joy and happiness. Things that also make your life better, and serve as a great way to spend your time. Hobbies also give meaning and purpose to your life, they add substance and value.
2. Self reflection
Self reflection is a crucial and inseparable part of your journey, as it allows you to monitor and manage your progress better. When you pause and take a moment to reflect on where you were, where you are now and where you want to be… You make better, more efficient progress. You can better pinpoint and identify your weaknesses and strengths, what you need to remove and what to add. Reflecting allows you to evaluate your process and progress, and plan ahead accordingly. If you want to grow and develop in the most effective and beneficial ways… You need to take the time to mirror and reflect on your growth journey, and then adjust and tweak accordingly.
3. Removing bad, negative habits
As I’ve mentioned before, habits are a huge part of being a human, and as such, it’s important to keep tabs on them. The first step is to identify the bad, negative ones that are holding you back and hinder your progress. Bad habits that make you feel bad about yourself and life. Habits that cause you harm and frustration. Which is also another reason why reflection is important, because it will help you recognise and find bad habits. Then you need to start working on eliminating them from your life. Because not only can they be harmful and hindering… But they also take up time and energy you could be spending on positive, more productive things.
4. Creating good, positive habits
Now that you’ve removed your negative habits, you have more time, energy and capacity to focus on acquiring positive ones. I’ve written a whole blog post about creating positive habits, where you can find the top 20 positive habits you should adopt. They are not only a huge part of the singlehood journey, but also a crucial step in your personal development path. Positive habits help you feel better about yourself and improve your overall well being. Which not only makes you happier, it also fills you with drive and motivation to keep being your best self. It’s very gratifying to make these small, but significant achievements. And a bonus, is that you’ll likely also be a better human and kinder to others around you.
5. Removing toxic people and building a support system
This is another step that I keep preaching about, and will continue to preach about every chance I get. Because I cannot stress enough how crucial it is to be very selective of who you allow into your life. DO NOT be ashamed or feel bad and guilty about removing people from your life who are toxic for you. People who constantly disappoint you and let you down, who even go as far as hurting you. NO ONE is worth it, and no one should be allowed to “damage” you like that. The people who truly care and matter, will not hurt you and will show up when you need them. So take control of your standards and people you allow into your support system. Because at the end of the day, the people in your life have a huge impact and affect on you. They have a first row seat for your personal development journey.
6. Spend quality alone time
Far too many people regard their own company as a punishment, as something they need to fear or avoid. With that way of thinking, of course it will never be something you want and look forward to. This usually happens due to spending low quality time with yourself. Like, being on your phone the whole time. Or just wasting away by laying around doing nothing, or complaining, feeling bored, etc. Instead, you need to try spending high quality time with yourself. Doing productive things, having fun with yourself and doing meaningful and joyful activities. When you do so, you’re more likely to start seeing your alone time as a blessing and something to be cherished. You will start enjoying your own company and look forward to it.
7. Paying it forward – Volunteer work
Giving back can be one of the most difficult parts of this process, but also the most fulfilling and important. This is a step that should never be skipped or looked over, as it’s super beneficial all around. First of all, by giving from yourself and helping, you’re improving other people’s lives. You’re making an impact and difference in their life, which is also an important part of your life. Secondly, being in the “supporter” position makes you stronger and more resilient. It helps you appreciate all that you’ve been through. Thirdly, it also makes all of your struggles and challenges that much more worth it. Not only are they lessons for you, but also one you can pat forward and teach others. All around, this step will help you build and shape your character and growth.
8. Educate yourself – Learning new things and skills
A huge part of personal development and being the best version of yourself, is always growing and evolving. Which cannot be done without learning and experiencing new things. One of the main things all successful people have in common is education. Not just accumulating and collecting degrees, but actually educating yourself and expanding your horizons. Build your knowledge and use it to do and be better, to master your profession and take it to the next level. Try to actually understand what you’re doing and how to get to where you want to be… Don’t only depend on luck and natural talent, don’t just let things play out and hope for the best. Be proactive, learn and build your skills and make it purposeful.
9. Self care
If you want to upgrade yourself and your life, become the best version of you that you can, you actually need to take care of yourself. You need to incorporate and combine all of the self care methods into your life in one way or another. Which means, learning how to put yourself first and believing that you also deserve your love and care. From the most basic and fundamental self care, to the difficult and painful aspects, to the pampering and indulging parts of it. They are all crucial and all need to be utilized to create your best self and your best life. Use them to grow and they will not only improve your well being and quality of life… But will also help you with your personal development journey.
10. Stop caring and comparing
Your journey is your own, just like everyone else’s journey is their own. So comparing your own path and progress to anyone else’s but your own, will only cause destruction and hinder your progress. When you stop comparing your own journey with others, you will not only make more, better progress, you will also be more at peace with yourself. Which will help you in your personal development and growth. This also includes blocking and tuning out haters, doubters and narrow minded people. If you want to become the best version of yourself, and keep leveling up… You need to stop caring what others will think or say. Not about you, your journey and certainly not about your singleness.
As humans, we are constantly changing and evolving. We can either give up control and let things fall as they may… Which will likely create chaos and misery. There is no way you could truly be happy if you’re not in charge of your own life. Or you can take control and be the one holding the reins. This means not letting life just happen to you, this means creating the life you want. And that starts and ends with your personal development journey. Because who and what you are is the essence of your life. So you need to try and strive to be your best self and constantly work on leveling up.
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