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    How a Healthy Self-Relationship Can Help You Develop a Healthy Romantic Relationship

    Michal B.L. / 02/10/2023

    These are the top 12 ways how a healthy self-relationship can help you develop a healthy romantic relationship

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I’m exhausted… physically, but mainly emotiona I’m exhausted… physically, but mainly emotionally. For the past two months I’ve probably felt every single human emotion possible, but most of all, I’ve felt sad. Extremely and utterly sad, to my very core. I’m sad for my people, for our tragic, horrific loss, and the lack of ability to mourn, because we’re too busy defending ourselves for defending ourselves. I’m sad to see how much blind hate has erupted around the world by people only listening to one side, people who don’t know or understand what is actually happening. I’m sad to see how many people justify, defend and even celebrate what happened on October 7th. I’m sad to see the direction humanity is headed to, and the lack of humanity - I’m sad to see just how ugly it is, and how no one seems to really care or do something about it. I’m sad to see so many people claiming to be “activists”, “humanitarians” and even just “influencers” claiming to care about human rights or women empowerment - are either silent or somehow manage to justify. So many people following automatically without even pausing to think twice, without questioning it or asking themselves what if it’s a lie? What if I’m causing harm? I suggest you ask yourself what kind of person you want to be, before it’s too late. Whether it’s in this situation, or any other in your own life - don’t do things cuz everyone is, cuz you’re scared of people unfollowing you, cuz you’re scared to be unpopular. If you do things cause everyone is, or cause it’s trendy, you may be “cool”, but you’re not really respected and you lose your dignity. Is that who you want to be? Is that who you want people to see you as? #lossofhumanity #imsad #behuman #stopspreadinghate
Here’s something I’ve learnt about society rec Here’s something I’ve learnt about society recently… More people care about being liked by OTHERS, than they do about liking themselves, even if it means being someone that they aren’t, someone they dislike. If you’re more concerned with getting likes & views , if you’re more scared of losing followers than being true to self, than compromising your morals & your values - then you’re on the wrong path Don’t be liked. Don’t seek to be liked by others. If it means you can’t be yourself When you care too much about likes, views & followers, you lose a part of yourself, you’re less true to yourself. Just look how many more likes posts & vids with filters & editing get, than natural ones do. People want the “IG perfect” more than they want real life - so we compromise ourselves & authenticity to deliver it to them. People who can’t bear being disliked for who they are, will do all they can to adapt & wear as many masks needed to please others. Do you think such a person is trustworthy? Do you think they’re a good role model? Start liking yourself more than you like other people “liking” you - it will be your superpower, and prevent you from being miserable & living a miserable life #likeyourself #dontbeliked #betruetoyourself #embracewhoyouare
I believe in the power of writing - as a tool for I believe in the power of writing - as a tool for healing, therapy, creativity, influencing, impacting, communicating, outlet, life management & more. For the past few years I used my writing to inspire & help people embrace themselves & their singleness, bc I care so much about this cause & it’s super close to my heart I wanted to create a space where ppl feel safe to be themselves & share who & what they are, without fear of being judged. A space where we support each other & celebrate our differences, uniqueness & abnormalities But I have a confession to make - I’ve been hesitant to share a huge part of who I am. I haven’t been hiding it or scared to say it, but I would actively avoid it where I could, bc I didn’t want to create tension & dreaded the reaction I’m sooo DONE with that, with hiding a huge part of me & where I’m from - & if you can’t accept it I don’t want you here anyway. I get that we may have disagreements & that’s okay, you don’t need to agree with me, but at the very least don’t judge or hate me, especially if you’re not willing to listen   I was born & raised in Israel. I’m part English, but a bigger part of me is Israeli. For the past month & 1/2 we’ve been at war, which is the only thing I’ve been able to think about. You can choose to hate me for it, but that says more about you & your morals than it does me. I won’t let your issues about me prevent me from being true to myself I’ve tried to create content & get back on track, but it felt wrong & my brain wouldn’t allow me to actually write anything else. But there’s still so much in my head & my heart that I need to release & writing is my way to do so I’m not sure when I’ll get back to my usual posts, but until then I would like to share with you my thoughts, insights, lessons & emotions in my upcoming posts. I hope that it helps you too, to process whatever you’re going through & in your own journey I ask you to remain respectful & civil- towards me & others. We can create open-minded dialogue w/o being hateful or hurtful. I’m gonna try to not get political & focus mainly on coping with emotions & self in hard times, & managing overwhelming feelings with yourself & over thinking
In a world that often celebrates surface-level per In a world that often celebrates surface-level perfection, let's dare to be beautifully different. Embracing our quirks, scars & unique weirdness is not just liberating; it's empowering. So, here's a roadmap to help you start loving & embracing every inch of your wonderfully imperfect self: 1-Self-Reflection: Take a moment to appreciate your individuality. Those quirks and scars? They tell a story of resilience & character. Recognise that they make you who you are. 2-Bye-Bye, Toxic Comparisons: Comparing ourselves to others only breeds insecurity. It's time to unfollow those 'influencers' who project unattainable perfection. Your journey is unique, and so is your beauty. 3-Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. Remember, some things can't be changed, but your perception can. Instead of fixating on what you dislike, focus on what you love about yourself. 4-Authenticity Over Conformity: Embrace your uniqueness. Don't shy away from what sets you apart; celebrate it. Your quirks make you one-of-a-kind in a sea of sameness. 5-Inner Beauty: Shift your focus from external appearances to the beauty that radiates from within. Kindness, resilience & compassion are the qualities that truly define you. 6-Self-Love Practice: Make self-love a daily practice. Affirmations, journaling, or simply looking in the mirror and acknowledging your worth can work wonders. 7-Encourage Others: As you embark on this self-love journey, encourage others to embrace their quirks and individuality too. Empower and uplift those around you. Start choosing self-love over self-critique, authenticity over conformity, and uniqueness over uniformity. What are your quirks & “imperfections”? How are you embracing them? #embraceyourself #embraceyourimperfections #embracingmyself #embraceauthenticity
In a world where it’s easy to lose yourself in t In a world where it’s easy to lose yourself in the pursuit of pleasing others & finding love, the first vital step towards a healthy romantic relationship is nurturing a strong self-relationship Let’s break it down… Being genuine & true to yourself *Refuse to wear masks & be authentic, in the right relationship, you’ll never need to pretend or hide who you are *Don’t filter or tame yourself, be honest, you shouldn’t have to constantly censor what you say or feel like you need to tame your thoughts to be accepted *Aceept yourself & stop accepting someone who doesn’t accept or respect you, or that tries to change who you are to fit their needs better *You attract better people by living our best life, you radiate confidence & positivity, attracting people who truly deserve us Maintaining the peaceful, drama-free mentality *Remaining peaceful & calm, prioritise a drama-free mindset by not accepting disruptions or games *Loving with chill vibes, creating a calm & stable connections, not constant drama or intense battles; it’s about embracing tranquility *Reacting, not overreacting, master the art of reacting thoughtfully, fostering open & healthy communication while avoiding unnecessary conflict *Boring is bliss, thriving without constant stimulation creates stability, helps you enjoy simple moments & build trust Refuse to lose yourself & your identity in them: *In a healthy romantic relationship individuals grow together while maintaining their individual lives & interests, without sacrificing their own worlds to fit into each other’s *They’re not your main source of happiness, you find joy within yourself first, making the partnership an enriching bonus rather than a dependency *Preserving alone time is a vital component of a healthy self-relationship that enhances the quality of time spent together in any partnership *Accept only the love you deserve, guided by your unwavering self-worth & let go of those who don’t treat you right, creating a clearer path to the right people who appreciate you for who you are So, what’s your take on these key aspects for creating a healthy romance? Share your thoughts in the comments ↓ #selfrelationship #selfreliance
Is developing a healthy self relationship, a waste Is developing a healthy self relationship, a waste of time and energy, when all you want is to find love? In this NEW BLOG POST - “How a Healthy Self-Relationship Can Help You Develop a Healthy Romantic Relationship” - I share with you how it can actually help you in finding better love These are the top 12 ways how a healthy self-relationship can help you develop a healthy romantic relationship A few months ago I started a new romantic relationship. It’s my first serious relationship in seven years (of singlehood), and it’s also the most healthiest relationship I’ve ever hard. Being in our 30’s and more mature certainly contributes to it, but I believe that the main component is having done a lot of personal work and growth. We’ve both taken quite a few years to be alone and develop as individuals first. We talk a lot about how our relationship wouldn’t have lasted, and would’ve likely been toxic, had we met a few years back. I see arguments that my friends have with their partners (having not taken time in singlehood and to work on themselves), and they’re absurd to me now. My boyfriend and I don’t have them, and in the following 12 methods, you’ll see exactly why. FOR THE FULL BLOG POST → DM me ‘HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS’ ❓Have you developed a healthy self-relationship? Has it helped you develop healthier relationships with others? #selfrelationship #selfrelationshipgoals #healthyrelationships #relationshipgoals
There’s always a solution to any problem, you ju There’s always a solution to any problem, you just need some patience, cause it may take some time & digging to find it. 1-Taking on too much all at once: It’s tempting to want to change everything overnight, but overwhelming yourself with too many habits can lead to burnout. Start small & build from there. 2-Diving in too deep too soon: Rushing into a habit or going all in on it without proper preparation can make it feel like a chore & overwhelming. Take time to understand why you want this habit & what it means to you, then ease yourself into it. 3-Lack of clarity: Vague goals lead to vague results. Be crystal clear about what you want to achieve with your habit & why it matters. If you don’t know why you’re doing it, you’ll likely give up on it. 4-Going against my flow: We all have our natural rhythms. Trying to force habits that don’t align with your natural tendencies can be a recipe for frustration & failure. Work with your flow, not against it. 5-Lack of routine & structure: Habits thrive in routine. Without a structured plan, it’s easy to fall off track. Design a schedule that accommodates your habits & lifestyle. 6-Self-doubt: Doubting your ability to stick to a habit is a surefire way to undermine your efforts. Cultivate self-belief & remind yourself of your capabilities. 7-Social influence: The people around you can either support or hinder your habit-building journey. Surround yourself with those who uplift & encourage your growth. Don’t take on someone else’s habits just cause they’re cool or you want to fit in. Creating healthy habits is a marathon, not a sprint. By addressing these factors and being patient with yourself, you can pave the way for lasting positive changes in your singlehood. HOW ABOUT YOU? Are any of these key factors holding you back from creating healthy habits in your singlehood? #healthyhabits #singlelifehabits #beingsinglesucks #singlewomen #healthylifestyle #singlelifestyle
Blaming your single status for your loneliness isn Blaming your single status for your loneliness isn't going to make you any less lonely, especially since it isn't to blame (at least not entirely). You can be just as lonely in a relationship, if not more - it's all about what you CHOOSE do with your status & what you FOCUS on, that determines your loneliness. Blaming your singleness for feeling lonely during your singlehood will only worsen your loneliness, make you miserable, and more bitter about being single. Blaming your singleness for your loneliness will only cause you to settle & jump into all of the wrong relationships, out of fear of being alone. Being in a relationship and expecting it to make you less lonely, will only intensify your loneliness, because a relationship isn't a fix-all medicine, and won't ease your loneliness if you don't address the actual issues. being in a relationship just for the sake of not being alone, will only make you lonelier when you realise you still feel alone, if not more - because now you shouldn't feel lonely, cause you're in a relationship, right? being in a relationship just so you don't have to be alone, and just so it can "fix" your loneliness will only strain that relationship & cause it to crumble. So what will help you battle your loneliness? Facing the truth & actually understanding the source of your loneliness, asking yourself the RIGHT questions, not the ones you want. For more on overcoming loneliness DM me 'LONELINESS' & I'll send you the link to my ebook "The Power of Connections" Have you asked yourself any of these questions? #loneliness #connectionmatters #thepowerofconnections #thepowerofconnection #battleloneliness #lonelynomore
Let’s break free from societal pressures & redef Let’s break free from societal pressures & redefine what it means to be single. Things to refuse: ❌ Settle for Less: You deserve nothing but the best. Say no to settling for relationships that don’t align with your values, dreams & aspirations. Embrace the belief that you are worthy of a love that complements your authentic self. ❌ Define Yourself by Status: Your worth extends far beyond your relationship status. Refuse to let society define you solely based on your romantic partnerships. Embrace your individuality, passions & personal achievements. ❌ Seek Validation from Others: True validation comes from within. Say no to seeking external validation & approval. Validate yourself by embracing your unique qualities & abilities. ❌ Rush the Process: Love & connection can’t be rushed. Say no to the pressure of finding someone quickly. Use this time to focus on personal growth, self-reflection & nurturing your own happiness. ❌ Diminish Your Self-Worth: Your worth is not determined by your relationship status. Say no to anyone or anything that makes you question your value. Embrace the unwavering belief that you are enough, exactly as you are. Instead, Embrace: ✅ Self-Discovery: Use your singlehood to explore your passions, interests & aspirations. Discover who you truly are & what brings you joy. Embrace the opportunity to grow & evolve as an individual. ✅ Self-Care: Prioritise your physical, mental & emotional well-being. Nurture yourself through self-care practices that replenish & rejuvenate your soul. Embrace the power of self-love & self-nurturing. ✅ Independence: Revel in the freedom & independence that singlehood brings. Embrace the chance to make decisions for yourself, pursue your dreams & create a life that aligns with your desires. ✅ Authentic Connections: Surround yourself with supportive friends, family & a community that uplifts & empowers you. Cultivate meaningful connections that add value to your life, and relationships that celebrate & cherish your individuality. Celebrate the incredible journey of self-discovery & empowerment. #redefiningsingleness #embraceyourjourney #refusetosettle #singleandstrong

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